Entries in Freedom (3)
When accountability is discussed, individuals often struggle with the meaning of the term and how it applies to them directly.
- Is it a practice that we are naturally predisposed to?
- Do we automatically receive it from others?
- Can it really provide a solution to critical challenges?
In this day in age we often think that life will invariably hold us accountable; whether, in the workplace, through governance, something that is innate, or a natural requirement. However, there is an art to personal accountability and the reality is that it comes down to “you”. Whether personal or professional advancement is your ultimate goal, it becomes a daily act of holding yourself accountable for your actions, responsibilities, and goals in life. “Don’t think it, be it!” You cannot just say you want to improve and then just expect yourself to improve. Most individuals wait their entire lives for life to happen to them.
How do you get out of the waiting room of life? For starters, you can’t change the past, tomorrow isn’t promised to us, so your wait ends today. Prove that you can do it and in doing so you will distinguish yourself from the mere act of thinking. To hold yourself to a higher standard you must consider your actions and choices, your goals, and your responsibilities/priorities. Second, you must follow-thru on your commitments and responsibilities with a positive growth producing attitude and discipline. Finally, take control of yourself and seek out the advice, wisdom, and counsel of others who have attained personal accountability in the areas you have made a personal commitment to follow-thru in.
When you take 100% accountability for yourself it becomes an art form. It will ebb and flow, surprise you, turn a corner, or awaken an entirely new reality. Not only will you experience personal growth, you will experience a sense of accomplishment, burdens will be lifted, amends will be made, relationships will flourish, you will gain a new found appreciation of self, others will respect your fortitude, your self-esteem will mend, and you will become an art form and example for others struggling with accountability to look up to and come alongside. Don’t just wait for the opportunity, BE the opportunity.
It is with many emotions that I sit down to write this blog. Ironically, none of them negative. I view life as a journey. A journey that when listened too, can lead us to new beginnings. That time for a new beginning has arrived for me. I grew up in the southwest and western part of the country, and many westerners believe that once you've lived in the west, it's in your blood. Whether that is true for everyone, or just for me, it is true. I have journeyed through the muck of my past and come to know myself through understanding the muck, somewhere along the line, in paying attention to self, I realized I become more alive in the mountains and beauty of the west than anywhere else. For many years I thought I was "stuck" in Orlando because I had just spent so many years working incredibly hard to build a private practice. In journeying to understand myself more fully I had to heed my own advice which is "you are only as stuck as you choose to be". I also began to give myself the freedom to ask myself, What do I want? and, Where do I want to live? Inevitably the answer came back to living in the west. With that, I began to see if it could become a reality. It could. It has.
I came across 2 quotes recently that help sum up the thoughts:
"Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive." -Howard Thurman
"To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing." –Anonymous
With a much deeper and greater understanding of myself and my soul, with a knowledge of what helps make me come alive, and with being at a place in my life that my fear of not risking is more crippling than the risk itself, and after being at Charis Counseling Center for 10 years (or something like that), I have decided to move my practice to the beautiful mountains of Colorado.
I take with me many great memories. Stories that will always be remembered and treasured. Tears shed from the soul that have been offered up to the Sacred Place. What an amazing privilege it has been! I also take a small little white poodle, the great keeper of secrets and stories. She will always remember....(especially when she is mad at me about moving her from the sunshine state of Florida to the snow capped mountains of Colorado).
Thank you to so many of you who have trusted me with your lives and your stories and will continue to do so. Thank you for letting me into those deeper places of your souls that were so hard to get too, and still you went. You have taught me so many things through the years, things I will take with me into the next phase of my journey that I expect to be more alive, real, authentic and deep because I can't imagine it any other way.
And thank you to the Charis Team!! I will leave it there for now, some words are meant to be private.
Thank you! Journey on! Travel well! Travel light!
In its simplest form, ambivalence is the state of both wanting to do something and not wanting to do something at the same time. Have you ever been in that place? I certainly have, especially when it comes to dealing with emotional issues. I am writing about this because it seems like ambivalence is a common theme right now with people. They know the importance of continuing their journey to reconcile emotional issues within themselves, and yet are unsure. Everybody has their own reasons for staying in that place. Fear, uncertainty, feeling out of control, scared of change I think are all part of it. Emotional freedom does come at a cost and part of the cost is having to embrace pain and take a hard look at yourself. However, like anything else that requires a price, the cost is worth it. If you find yourself in a place of ambivalence, I encourage you to keep moving forward. You will not grow with God, yourself, and others as long as you remain in that place.