Category: Couples

  • Selfish Apologies: Saying “I’m sorry” for your relief, not theirs

  • Posted by Tim Tedder on February 27, 2012 | Topics: Couples, Personal Growth
  • We accept the belief that forgiveness is a necessary component of a healthy, satisfying relationship. But if that’s true, why don’t apologies always work? Why are offended people still unsatisfied after an apology has been offered? Why are the words “I said I’m sorry. What more do you want?!” so familiar? Because too often we are more concerned with gaining our own relief than with giving relief to the other person.

  • Breaking Through Walls

  • Posted by Laura Demetrician on October 3, 2011 | Topics: Couples
  • It is almost as if I can see the walls between some couples when they come in for the first session.   I can actually feel not only the distance, but a self-protective, impenetrable barrier.   The difficult thing is that walls have a purpose; they protect.  They protect from disappointment, rejection, shame, conflict, and being ignored.  … Continue reading “Breaking Through Walls”

  • Conflict Resolution

  • Posted by Jim Keller on August 8, 2011 | Topics: Couples
  • I don’t know of anyone that actually likes conflict.  I certainly know some who do better at it than others… like my wife, for instance!  It’s not that she can out-argue me, it’s just that her perseverance is so much better that I eventually raise the white flag because I, in wimp-like fashion, am too … Continue reading “Conflict Resolution”

  • Shouldn’t Love Be Easy?

  • Posted by Tim Tedder on July 11, 2011 | Topics: Couples
  • Consider the expectation of two couples at different stages in their relationship. Couple A, together for six months, drip with affection as they dream of a lifetime together. When asked Do you think it will ever be difficult to love each other? they looked perplexed, perhaps even offended. Are you kidding? We’re in love. Nothing … Continue reading “Shouldn’t Love Be Easy?”