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  • Christmas Time

  • Posted by Jim Keller on December 20, 2010 | Topics: Spiritual Developments
  • Christmas time is always fraught with peril.  Not the physical peril of a military man or woman, but it’s loaded with emotional battles and relational pitfalls.  I think that it’s because everyone secretly wants an ideal Christmas, even those Scrooges who say they don’t like the holiday season.  They’re all just jaded liars, secretly hoping … Continue reading “Christmas Time”

  • There You Are!

  • Posted by Julia Sharp on December 6, 2010 | Topics: Couples, Personal Growth
  • Recently, I sat down with a family member who asked me how my day had been going. I started to share about an afternoon of putting up the Christmas tree and drinking some delicious hot cider when she interrupted with, “Do you like how I moved that picture?”. Ouch! Now I wasn’t sharing any deep … Continue reading “There You Are!”

  • Full Forgiveness

  • Posted by Tim Tedder on November 8, 2010 | Topics: Couples
  • Let me admit something to you: I’ve had difficulty writing this. My past posts about forgiveness came more easily, but this time… this time I stalled whenever I considered what to say about complete, full forgiveness. I’m a week past the due date, and still struggling, wondering why this seems so hard. Perhaps it is … Continue reading “Full Forgiveness”

  • Decisional Forgiveness

  • Posted by Tim Tedder on October 25, 2010 | Topics: Couples
  • Some people consider forgiveness an all-or-nothing proposition. It’s a bit like bungee jumping; you can either stand frozen or you can take the step, but you can’t go just half-way down. Combine this thinking with the idea that forgiveness is always the best choice and you will eventually find yourself in a dilemma: How can … Continue reading “Decisional Forgiveness”

  • Bartered Forgiveness

  • Posted by Tim Tedder on October 18, 2010 | Topics: Couples
  • In previous posts, I wrote about two expressions of forgiveness that, when offered, actually inhibit healthy recovery: premature forgiveness (quickly offered but withdrawn when the reality of the offense is recognized), and fake forgiveness (outwardly proclaimed while hidden resentment persists). Let me give you one more: bartered forgiveness. Bartered forgiveness is offered under the condition … Continue reading “Bartered Forgiveness”

  • Fake Forgiveness

  • Posted by Tim Tedder on October 11, 2010 | Topics: Couples
  • Another Saturday night. Jake sat at the table with a group of friends, sipping at his wine while inwardly bracing himself. His wife, Marci, had started in again with the jokes―the thinly-veiled criticisms―told at his expense. She slipped easily into these demeaning and embarrassing comments whenever her way had been wet with enough alcohol. Friends laughed, … Continue reading “Fake Forgiveness”

  • Premature Forgiveness

  • Posted by Tim Tedder on September 27, 2010 | Topics: Couples
  • My grade-school friends and I were playing by the side of the road when the Neighborhood Bully came riding by. I knew him only by reputation and so had no idea why he bothered to hop off his bike and plant himself in front of me. Before I could make any sense of the circumstance, Bully … Continue reading “Premature Forgiveness”