Category: Codependency

Healthy Boundaries in Relationships

One of my earliest memories of someone setting a healthy boundary was when I was around 13 years old and my mother’s friend had stopped by to say hello. She was telling my mother that her son had just recently bought a car from his dad after saving for some time. In my naivete and … Continue reading “Healthy Boundaries in Relationships”

Coping? What is the difference between coping and codependency?

This can be difficult to discern at times. By its basic definition, Codependency is “doing for others what they are capable of doing for themselves”. Its root desire is to change the situation; but, its basic focus is not for myself, but for others. Unfortunately, most of this help was not wanted or requested. So, … Continue reading “Coping? What is the difference between coping and codependency?”

The Unselfish Act of Setting Boundaries

In our society, the term “boundaries” has become commonplace. Typically, it’s used in the context of protecting oneself from unhealthy relationships or work life. When people pursue counseling to help make progress in their lives, issues with boundaries often move to the forefront. When trying to make choices about boundaries to establish, the ultimate goal … Continue reading “The Unselfish Act of Setting Boundaries”

The unselfish “NO”

I’ve had several conversations about boundaries this week, both in my personal and professional life. A friend expressed that she struggled with feeling selfish when she set boundaries, another that he felt bad when he “spoke up” and hurt someone’s feelings. We avoid an uncomfortable conversation that may sting and eventually wind up losing an … Continue reading “The unselfish “NO””