Last week I listened to a man describe the ways he was affected by his recent affair. “It change the way I experienced life,” he told me. “Each morning, instead of waking up with a sense of expectation for the day, my first thoughts were ones of self-preservation: Where’s my cell phone? Did I close my email account before I went to bed? Have I done anything to leave the affair exposed? I was continuously worried that I would be caught.”
Whoever walks in integrity walks securely,
but whoever takes crooked paths will be found out.
(Proverbs 10:9, NIV)
I’ve worked with many individuals who have been “found out.” Some continue to follow crooked paths, but those who commit to honesty usually attest to a great sense of relief that follows telling the truth. And once someone commits to walking with integrity, they no longer have to fear getting caught in a misstep. There really is a sense of security that accompanies a lifestyle of truthfulness.
“I had the best night’s sleep in years,” another client admitted after confessing their long held secret. “Why did I wait so long to do this?”
People don’t walk crooked paths without reason. They convince themselves that being honest involves too much risk, or causes the loss of too much independence. But the cost is high and many crooked-path people end up in a counselor’s office wondering why they are depressed or anxious or suffering so many consequences.
Have you lost your sense of security? Do you keep things hidden away, hoping they won’t be discovered? The unsteadiness and insecurity you feel can be changed. Even today, you can start walking a different path.