Category: Couples

  • There You Are!

  • Posted by Julia Sharp on December 6, 2010 | Topics: Couples, Personal Growth
  • Recently, I sat down with a family member who asked me how my day had been going. I started to share about an afternoon of putting up the Christmas tree and drinking some delicious hot cider when she interrupted with, “Do you like how I moved that picture?”. Ouch! Now I wasn’t sharing any deep … Continue reading “There You Are!”

  • Full Forgiveness

  • Posted by Tim Tedder on November 8, 2010 | Topics: Couples
  • Let me admit something to you: I’ve had difficulty writing this. My past posts about forgiveness came more easily, but this time… this time I stalled whenever I considered what to say about complete, full forgiveness. I’m a week past the due date, and still struggling, wondering why this seems so hard. Perhaps it is … Continue reading “Full Forgiveness”

  • Decisional Forgiveness

  • Posted by Tim Tedder on October 25, 2010 | Topics: Couples
  • Some people consider forgiveness an all-or-nothing proposition. It’s a bit like bungee jumping; you can either stand frozen or you can take the step, but you can’t go just half-way down. Combine this thinking with the idea that forgiveness is always the best choice and you will eventually find yourself in a dilemma: How can … Continue reading “Decisional Forgiveness”

  • Bartered Forgiveness

  • Posted by Tim Tedder on October 18, 2010 | Topics: Couples
  • In previous posts, I wrote about two expressions of forgiveness that, when offered, actually inhibit healthy recovery: premature forgiveness (quickly offered but withdrawn when the reality of the offense is recognized), and fake forgiveness (outwardly proclaimed while hidden resentment persists). Let me give you one more: bartered forgiveness. Bartered forgiveness is offered under the condition … Continue reading “Bartered Forgiveness”

  • Fake Forgiveness

  • Posted by Tim Tedder on October 11, 2010 | Topics: Couples
  • Another Saturday night. Jake sat at the table with a group of friends, sipping at his wine while inwardly bracing himself. His wife, Marci, had started in again with the jokes―the thinly-veiled criticisms―told at his expense. She slipped easily into these demeaning and embarrassing comments whenever her way had been wet with enough alcohol. Friends laughed, … Continue reading “Fake Forgiveness”

  • Premature Forgiveness

  • Posted by Tim Tedder on September 27, 2010 | Topics: Couples
  • My grade-school friends and I were playing by the side of the road when the Neighborhood Bully came riding by. I knew him only by reputation and so had no idea why he bothered to hop off his bike and plant himself in front of me. Before I could make any sense of the circumstance, Bully … Continue reading “Premature Forgiveness”

  • Make Your Move

  • Posted by Tim Tedder on April 19, 2010 | Topics: Couples
  •   A couple steps into my office for their first counseling session. The look on their faces is familiar: disappointment, hurt, anger… maybe even disdain. They sit on the couch, careful to leave enough space for the wall between them, and begin to present their cases. Each offers an argument that has failed them so … Continue reading “Make Your Move”